Therapy is for whimps.

Fazsa’s


I’m going to pick up my father at the airport in an hour. I haven’t seen him in 3 years. He said he wanted to see me, out of the blue. I’ve seen him maybe 3 times in 10 years. What will we talk about? What will we do? Where do I start? Why are too many fathers like this? He’s a musician, so does that give him an excuse?… I don’t know what I’m going to do or feel, but I’m not nervous. Just skeptical…

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5 responses

  1. May I vent?
    I strongly feel that the story is two fold. On the father side, I think its a combination of supression and a lack of responsibility. Don’t know your situation with your father, but with my father, he was too caught up in a fast buck, probably because of the pressure he felt from society to “Get Right” ASAP. His father was never present, so that also adds to the problem, no guidance. Yes, he has been supressed and so has his faher, and probably fathers before him, and yes this is a problem that stems back to the time of Willie Lynch, however, no excuses! Thankfully, we have better role models these days, Will Smith, Ice Cube (one of my personal favourite’s)& Barrack Obama to name a few. These are strong, amitious, positive black males which we need to borrow traits from to sculpture our own manhood. I strongly believe this will spawn a new generation of men with integrity and responsibility! Just please, let’s not all follow the typical Rap career, or Basketball career. Thinking outside the box will prove most rewarding!!

    As for the women! How many times have I seen my male friends try to speak with a black woman in a random place, at a random time, as polite as Forrest Gump with the charisma of a young Obama to no avail. The woman responding as if she was on a runway, struttin her stuff only to be interrupted by this Black Man! Ladies, when you leave the theatre of the popular Sex In The City movie, please believe that the reel stops, and real life continues. I can speak for my friends, myself, and for many men who have been denied a simple conversation, JUST BE REAL WITH YOURSELF! And value yourself, so damn tired of seeing 16 year olds at the bus stop with a stroller or a bubble belly waiting to pop. We need balance ladies, and please take a note from those Italians, Portuguese, and other races where women don’t forget their natural abilities to be caring & nurturing. It would be nice to ask a lady if she knows how to cook, and she responds with a confident YES. Not a response as if she has been offended!!

    We need each other to make a difference for all!!!!

    K, gotta go run the business for which I started so that my future children will not suffer the same fate I did, Talent with no Support!!

    Myslelf is my sacrifice, what is yours!!!!

    06/23/2010 at 09:25

  2. willia11

    Thank you for your comment. My father however, doesn’t stem from a long stereotypical line of absent male presence. His father was very much around and an influential individual. He does not come from poverty, his father was a school principal and a church minister. I think my father’s issues stem from his own need to try to make a name for himself in show business, to entertain, to be a celebrity. He has been focused on chasing that dream for so long, that nothing really could stop him.

    I will give him credit, he is a good man, and he is trying, albeit a little late.

    Feel free to vent on here any time! That’s what this is here for! lol

    Cheers,

    K.

    06/30/2010 at 14:29

  3. lewis

    Because of his job my father was constantly traveling. despite his absence, I feel like he never really was away. He made sure my memories are filled of his presence. what I’m trying to say is… putting his flaws aside, the few moments you have together can be cherished.

    there’s a saying “To a father growing old nothing is dearer than a daughter.” maybe he’s realizing…

    03/21/2011 at 20:32

  4. i can relate its fucked up I know, at least you got to see him I never have @masio hahaha good way to put it! @lewis omg its so cute @williat cheers

    my blog coming soon!

    04/04/2011 at 02:26

  5. lewis

    say whaaat? lol that’s funny i remember I wrote this with tears in my eyes..somewhat.
    there’s an artist who made a song to his daughter to forgive him for running after the glory instead of raising her. It kind of remind me of that if yall speak french at all check it out

    04/05/2011 at 00:06

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